If you had unlimited time, talent, money, and support...

Instead of starting out this new year all 'gang busters' with various resolutions, go easy on yourself and imagine what you would do if you had unlimited time, talent, money, and support from family and friends. Take a look at my January newsletter to refocus and remember what is important during the start of a new year!  May God bless you all in 2011.

Also in this month's newsletter:

Another one of my favorite things!

Helpful tele-workshops

Keeping Love Alive

You're Invited to a State House Event

Thank You RESOLVE of New England!



Not all states, in fact only 15 including the Commonwealth of Massachusetts have legislation in place so that Infertility-related health care costs are covered by insurance.

Why? Because RESOLVE of New England was the gatekeeper for this reform and former Gov. Dukakis among others, signed the original mandate into law. Now we need to keep it that way...

So PLEASE join RESOLVE of New England on 
Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 2:00 - 3:00 p.m. at the State House 
and help us honor the legislators who we consider to be "Champions For Infertility Legislation."

It is important we have presence since the new Health Care law says each mandate will be reviewed to determine their value and cost to the Commonwealth. The more people at the event, the more the legislators will remember that this is a mandate needed and supported by constituents.
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See you there!
Or, send me a note at info@kristenmagnacca.com with your opinion and I will represent your presence.

Holiday Survival Tips!

Time seems to be flying by more quickly these days, doesn’t it?  And when you’re trying to create your family through fertility treatments, time always seems to be an issue.  I remember the anxiety produced as each month ticked by at lightning speed.  Then add the stressors of the holiday season: shopping, preparations, the family and social gatherings, and it might feel as though time is our keeper.

I remember crying while looking at December’s calendar as we began an IUI cycle and realizing that I would be in the middle of it right around Christmas and New Year's.  In hindsight I wish I had taken the holiday off. But that is looking back on our situation from an 11-year distance. When you’re “in the heat of battle,” that option might not sound, feel or seem correct for you.  But I’d like to offer my armchair opinion about holding off on a cycle during the holiday season…if at all possible.

If you decide moving full speed ahead is what’s best for you, then here are some tried and true strategies that can help you bring balance and joyfulness into the season, regardless if you are in a cycle or taking a break.

Social Gatherings and Parties

Here’s a strategy that changes the event from potential failure to a winner. 

Break down the event into parts.  Decide which parties you are capable of attending.  Perhaps you are in a position where you “must attend” and are feeling the pressure.  Commit to yourself and/or your partner that you will attend the cocktail portion and then make a discrete exit.  Stay longer if you are up to it.  But if you feel you’ve fulfilled your goal, then leave acknowledging “another job was well done!” 

Create an elevator speech.  An elevator speech is a rehearsed and well-delivered speech at the ready to answer those annoying questions such as: “Do you have children?” “When are you going to have children?” and the dreaded, “Isn’t it time for you both to start having children?”

My tried and true elevator speech was “We have a whole team of experts working on that.”

Remember to use the Every Day Certainty combination by committing to the follow each and every day:

Gratitude:  Writing down ten things you are grateful for each day and using this as your mantra if those negative thoughts start to creep in.

Nurturing Item:  Finding one special thing you can do each and every day to uplift your spirit.  Perhaps it’s a hot cup of tea, a long shower or walk, or maybe a secret indulgence of a candy.

Daily Intention:  A daily intention is a mini-goal for the day.  Setting your intention to be open to all possibilities or perhaps finding the joy in communication exchanges.  What can you intend to look for and give out during the day that will help others and yourself?  After all, this season is more about giving than receiving. 

And remember, the holiday season will soon pass. But if you can use these strategies to enjoy it as much as possible, you will find yourself feeling stronger as you start a new year.

~ ALSO ~

Don't miss my special Holiday Survival Coaching Group on

December 9, 2010

6:30-8:30 pm

Join the sisterhood of understanding and make these holidays a joyful season!

Special Event on Thursday!

Do you need time with a group of individuals who completely understand what you're going through? Join us for an encouraging and understanding time of discussion...this will be a very special Fall Fertility Coaching Group taking place in Sandwich, MA.

This Thursday, Sept 30, 2010

7:00pm EST

68 Tupper Road, Suite 5A, Sandwich, MA

Fee: $10

RSVP: info@kristenmagnacca.com

Fall Fertility Coaching Group

Come by for a special Fall Fertility Coaching Group at my office, "A Time in Grace."

This time of encouragement will be held on Thursday, Sept. 30 at 7:00 pm, so mark your calendar now for a lovely evening on beautiful Cape Cod.

You will meet other individuals who completely understand what you're going through and how you're feeling, and I'll share simple yet effective strategies to help you manage your creation process. It will be a wonderful evening, so I hope you join us!

$10 Registration, RSVP to info@kristenmagnacca.com.

Holiday Survival Coaching Group!

NEW! Holiday Survival Coaching Group — The holiday season can be stressful and when you tack on TTC, it can be hard to see this time as the "Most Wonderful Time of the Year"!

I will share with you some simple strategies to shift the energy around this time and help bring joy to the season. The group meetings will focus on strategies for the mind, and a relaxation or meditation for the body and soul. The January group will focus on goal setting and staying clear on the year’s intentions. Come and share, connect with others, have a yummy dessert, and be introduced to some amazing mind, body, and soul balancing techniques.

Thursdays, November 12 and December 3, 2009 and January 7, 2010
6:30 – 8:30 p.m.
Merchant's Square, 68 Tupper Road 5A, East Sandwich, MA
Fee: $10 per session plus a materials charge
RSVP via email kristen@kristenmagnacca.com

Night of Hope ~ Best Book Award

June 2nd was a big night in the Big Apple! Love & Infertility: Survival Strategies for Infertility, Marriage and Life, received the Hope Award for Best book for coping with infertility from RESOLVE, the national infertility awareness organization.

Rita Crosby who is a veteran TV news anchor and senior correspondent who most recently worked at MSNBC, along with Barbara Collura, Executive Director and Lee Boston, Executive Board Member, presented this amazing award to me.

Also shown are my mom, Virginia Nehring and Dr. Robert Kiltz of Cny Fertility and Healing Art Centers and my wonderful husband,
Mark and I.

I so appreciate the support from Dr. Robert Kiltz of Cny Fertility and Healing Arts, Terri Davidson of Davidson Communication, the wonderful people at Village Fertility Pharmacy.
To everyone who has sent their congratulations! Thank you! Thank you! Kristen