Her Pearls of Wisdom - A Blog By Kristen Magnacca

Power of Stillness

2011-03-08T08:17:00.002-05:00

The power of stillness!

The month of March brings the promise of spring and transformation. You might be saying to yourself... Really?

The transformation of March into the splendor of spring pushes us to let go and shed our layers to embrace the changes for not only the seasons but for ourselves. So often we hold on so tightly to how things are now in fear of moving forward to avoid hurt. (Especially during fertility treatments)

How can you balance the power of this transformational energy while dealing with disappointment, heartbreak and uncertainty?

One strategy is through the power of stillness, through being in nature and connecting to the amazing energy of creation.

For me personally, after the loss of our first pregnancy, I hid inside of our house alone with my sorrow. What helped me bring myself back was the simple act of being with the sadness, acknowledging it and sitting in the springtime's sunshine.

The energy of the outside can change your heart. So for this month, and since March is said to come in like a lion and go out like a lamb, I am assigning homework...

· Be with yourself in silence for 10 minutes a day during March... Really, try it in the car... can you be quiet for 10 minutes? No cell phone or music playing? Become curious about what thoughts come up and how you feel.

· Second, be outside for 10 minutes just for you! Bundle up for the lioness part of March and wear flip flops for the lamb of March.

These are two very simple and transformational exercises to help you connect and be in your unique inner power.

Purification

2011-03-08T08:16:00.000-05:00

Did you know that February was named after the Latin term februum, which means purification, via the purification ritual Februa held on February 15 in the old Roman calendar.
(Wikipedia)

You might be saying so what?

The reason I open the February newsletter with the idea of purification is that February holds a great opportunity to take the time to shed the energies of the last few months, December & January and purify your mind, body and soul.

I hear you! You might be saying, "I have been eating correctly, taking my medication and doing all that needs to be done to create my heart's desire and now you want me to focus on purification?"

Well, let's just say for this month's intention that you will hold the concept of divine timing and create a system to give all worry, anger or sadness in yourself to the Higher Power.

In your mind, when a negative or fearful thought arises, create a script such as asking yourself, "Is this thought helpful"? If the inner response you get is a "NO", then add in another script, "All is well, I release this worry to the universe", or "I am surrounded by the divine white light".

This simple act of purification helps you to remember that you are enough and filling yourself up first helps you to easily love all.

Oh, one more strategy- a great laugh! Check out this website that offers a Universal Laughter Room, choose your laugh, your color and your intention! I picked green, unconditional love and the hard laugh. For me, it felt so much lighter and joyful after a great laugh!

Universal Laughter Room

Setting goals...with a twist!

2011-01-17T15:34:00.001-05:00

Monday January 17th @ 6:30 pm, free to attend from the comfort of your own home. This month we will focus on goal setting with a twist. *RSVP to Kristen@cnyfertility.com.

All those who sign up for this tele-workshop will receive a

complimentary EveryDay Certainty CD as a gift from Dr. Rob.

If you had unlimited time, talent, money, and support...

2011-01-12T11:07:00.000-05:00

Instead of starting out this new year all 'gang busters' with various resolutions, go easy on yourself and imagine what you would do if you had unlimited time, talent, money, and support from family and friends. Take a look at my January newsletter to refocus and remember what is important during the start of a new year! May God bless you all in 2011.

Also in this month's newsletter:

Another one of my favorite things!

Helpful tele-workshops

Keeping Love Alive

Making Choices

2010-12-16T06:24:00.001-05:00

Our dog is a Tibetan Terrier, I like to think that he shines some Tibetan energy each and every day into our home… the peace and solitude and quiet awareness that Tibetan monks exude somehow across the great earth are shared through this tiny being who brings unconditional joy and love.
Our little monk dog is named Indiana Jones Bingo Magnacca. I know, a lot of names for a little dog. My son who turned 12 named him after the trilogy of movies, which are our family favorites.
My favorite part of all the movies is the scene with the Grail Knight. The Grail Knight is weak in body but not in spirit or motivation. After seven hundred years of awaiting for his replacement, he still...read more at CNY Fertility.

Join me

Monday, December 20th at 6:30pm

to discuss “Making Choices” about fertility issues, balancing the holiday festivities and life.

Our special guest will be Joanne Verkuilen the founder and co-ceo of Circle + Bloom.

Joanne will facilitate a short meditation at the end of the hour.
Also, getting into the spirit of the holidays we will be raffling a combination gift of the Love & Infertility CD and a Circle & Bloom CD!
To RSVP and register for the gift set please email Kristen@cnyfertility.com. Feel free to email any questions or topics that you’d like to discuss prior to the tele-workshop.

Complimentary Coaching Tonight

2010-12-14T07:08:00.000-05:00

Please join me this evening for a

Complimentary Tele-Coaching Session

6:30-7:30 pm EST

If you or anyone you know would be encouraged by a loving and understanding conversation about fertility challenges, please email info@kristenmagnacca.com for the number to call and join us today!

You're Invited to a State House Event

2010-12-08T10:28:00.001-05:00

Thank You RESOLVE of New England!

Not all states, in fact only 15 including the Commonwealth of Massachusetts have legislation in place so that Infertility-related health care costs are covered by insurance.

Why? Because RESOLVE of New England was the gatekeeper for this reform and former Gov. Dukakis among others, signed the original mandate into law. Now we need to keep it that way...

So PLEASE join RESOLVE of New England on
Wednesday, December 15, 2010, 2:00 - 3:00 p.m. at the State House
and help us honor the legislators who we consider to be "Champions For Infertility Legislation."

It is important we have presence since the new Health Care law says each mandate will be reviewed to determine their value and cost to the Commonwealth. The more people at the event, the more the legislators will remember that this is a mandate needed and supported by constituents.
Click Here For More

See you there!
Or, send me a note at info@kristenmagnacca.com with your opinion and I will represent your presence.

The Balance of Giving and Receiving

2010-12-08T09:19:00.002-05:00

"Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into."

Wayne Dyer

Learn how to "tune in" when it feels like we've run dry.
Thanks to Fertility Authority for the article.

Season for Reflection . . .

2010-12-08T09:02:00.000-05:00

The season of winter hosts the opportunity to sit with a warm cup of tea or coffee and reflect a bit. The image of a roaring fire and a wing back chair inviting you to remember what this year held for you, what you have learned about yourself and what beliefs have shifted or changed in order to create newness in you and your life.

The cycle of December brings an end to the year but also the promise of a new beginning through the New Year by the release of what might be heavy of heart, what might have hurt so badly that through the hurt you have become someone else.

We somehow believe that a release or a death of a belief is a bad thing, but in actuality it is a beginning bringing forth freedom.

I would like you to give yourself the gift of 'releasing what you no longer need' and in that newly open space give yourself permission to create anew. Let your heart's desire sing with joy from yourself. Simply asking what do you intend for yourself? Begin thinking about creating your new "Dream's List" and open yourself to the spirit behind this beautiful season.

What is your heart's Desire? What do you expect from yourself? What do you expect from your life?

Answer from a place of unwavering faith!

The Big Holiday Giveaway!

2010-12-01T10:07:00.003-05:00

I am excited to partner with Circle+Bloom this year for a fantastic giveaway. Circle+Bloom provides listening programs that have been developed based on using relaxation and guided visualization to help you be proactive, reduce the effects of stress, and feel better about where you are on your family building journey. Their programs are simple, convenient, and recommended by reproductive specialists around the country.

In this giveaway you can win a coaching session with me (valued at $125), and the Circle+Bloom Energy for Empowerment Program. With these tools in your toolbox you will be unstoppable as you continue on your fertility journey, no matter what stage you're currently in.

There are 2 ways to be eligible to win:

1) With any purchase of one of my books or CD's or any of Circle+Bloom's programs between now and December 10.
OR
2) Fill out the no purchase necessary form on their website.

One entry per person - the winner will be drawn on December 10 and notified by email. Good luck!

Celebrate the Simple Pleasures this Season!

2010-12-01T09:49:00.000-05:00

When I was growing up, it seemed we had a "Charlie Brown" Christmas tree each and every year. We always chose the tree that looked like it had been...continue reading my latest article on Cape Women Online.

Holiday Survival Tips!

2010-11-15T17:19:00.001-05:00

Time seems to be flying by more quickly these days, doesn’t it? And when you’re trying to create your family through fertility treatments, time always seems to be an issue. I remember the anxiety produced as each month ticked by at lightning speed. Then add the stressors of the holiday season: shopping, preparations, the family and social gatherings, and it might feel as though time is our keeper.

I remember crying while looking at December’s calendar as we began an IUI cycle and realizing that I would be in the middle of it right around Christmas and New Year's. In hindsight I wish I had taken the holiday off. But that is looking back on our situation from an 11-year distance. When you’re “in the heat of battle,” that option might not sound, feel or seem correct for you. But I’d like to offer my armchair opinion about holding off on a cycle during the holiday season…if at all possible.

If you decide moving full speed ahead is what’s best for you, then here are some tried and true strategies that can help you bring balance and joyfulness into the season, regardless if you are in a cycle or taking a break.

Social Gatherings and Parties

Here’s a strategy that changes the event from potential failure to a winner.

Break down the event into parts. Decide which parties you are capable of attending. Perhaps you are in a position where you “must attend” and are feeling the pressure. Commit to yourself and/or your partner that you will attend the cocktail portion and then make a discrete exit. Stay longer if you are up to it. But if you feel you’ve fulfilled your goal, then leave acknowledging “another job was well done!”

Create an elevator speech. An elevator speech is a rehearsed and well-delivered speech at the ready to answer those annoying questions such as: “Do you have children?” “When are you going to have children?” and the dreaded, “Isn’t it time for you both to start having children?”

My tried and true elevator speech was “We have a whole team of experts working on that.”

Remember to use the Every Day Certainty combination by committing to the follow each and every day:

Gratitude: Writing down ten things you are grateful for each day and using this as your mantra if those negative thoughts start to creep in.

Nurturing Item: Finding one special thing you can do each and every day to uplift your spirit. Perhaps it’s a hot cup of tea, a long shower or walk, or maybe a secret indulgence of a candy.

Daily Intention: A daily intention is a mini-goal for the day. Setting your intention to be open to all possibilities or perhaps finding the joy in communication exchanges. What can you intend to look for and give out during the day that will help others and yourself? After all, this season is more about giving than receiving.

And remember, the holiday season will soon pass. But if you can use these strategies to enjoy it as much as possible, you will find yourself feeling stronger as you start a new year.

~ ALSO ~

Don't miss my special Holiday Survival Coaching Group on

December 9, 2010

6:30-8:30 pm

Join the sisterhood of understanding and make these holidays a joyful season!

Thankfulness? Really??

2010-11-10T12:48:00.004-05:00

Many thanks to CNY Fertility for sharing my tips on how to shift our thinking!

This Monday, Nov 15, CNY will sponsor my complimentary tele-workshop. I will be discussing powerful, practical ways to combine gratitude and chillaxation! This is not to be confused with a "just relax and get pregnant" approach. I would love for you to cozy up in your favorite spot of the house and join our phone workshop - just email me at kristen@cnyfertility.com for the dial-in number!

The Attitude of Gratitude:
I spoke to a client the other day and was preaching the good word about cultivating an attitude of gratitude to shift the energy around her fertility journey and she looked me straight in the eyes and responded with “blah, blah, blah”.

Perhaps you are feeling similar to this wonderful client of mine, the concept of cultivating gratitude has been shared before and sounds all well and good to you but today you might not be feeling it. You might be saying to yourself how can I have gratitude for….

A treatment cycle that has abruptly been stopped?
Another cycle that has resulted in a negative outcome?
Or the emotional tiredness that you are feeling?

In my humble opinion, The Law of Gratitude is the most powerful of the spiritual laws. Holding gratitude even in the most dire situation, finding that one little speck to be grateful for, can shift and change your perspective and in turn change your situation.

Getting back to my “Blah, Blah, Blah” wonderful lady, here’s the tip I shared with her:

We’re all human, experiencing a human experience. We have positive experiences and not so positive experiences. If we cultivate the practice of finding the positive in the negative then the intensity of the negative will diminish.

So here’s the tip:
On those days that gratitude is a faint flicker of light, try to remember your toes and feet; that you have them and that they are holding you up, keeping you balanced and help you travel through your day, mostly unnoticed.

Give gratitude for your toes and feet that can carry the weight of your day’s burdens, taking steps that lead you to your joy, freedom and fun. If you feel adventurous try giving thanks for your body during the month of November, given that it holds Thanksgiving Day within the month.

Remember each and every part of your body that allows you to do all that you are doing to create your family… you could start at your toes and feet and work up! Acknowledge your knees, that bend for you onto your hips, and so on! Acknowledgment and gratitude are all part of cultivating an attitude of gratitude and begins with tiny steps!

Yoga is such an amazing tool to use to cultivate gratitude for your body and brings you into your body. I encourage you to check out the CNY Healing Arts schedule and try a class if you haven’t yet, or if you are a regular, include the concept of gratitude for your body during your practice of yoga.

Happy Thanksgiving Days!

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.”
~Brian Tracy

The Second Time Around!

2010-11-05T22:29:00.002-04:00

How to deal with the difficulties of infertility, when they hit you again.

Signatures and Complimentary Copies!

2010-10-21T07:47:00.006-04:00

Join me this Monday, Oct 25 if you are Denver, Colorado attending the American Society for Reproductive Medicine Annual Meeting! I'll be at the Village Fertility booth
signing books and giving complimentary copies of my New CD
to my visitors - come introduce yourself, I look forward to meeting you!

He Said, She Said . . .

2010-10-13T11:24:00.002-04:00

"That's it. I'm calling the clinic right now!" he said.
"No, don't do that, I just needed to tell you what happened. I feel better now that I've vented," she said.
"What did you say?" he said.
"I said I feel better now. Phew, thanks," she said.
He looked like a deer caught in a headlight and walked away!

How do we reconcile these communication challenges in the midst of fertility difficulties that are already making life stressful? Read my strategy and let me know what you think!

Drugs or No Drugs?

2010-09-30T10:26:00.000-04:00

How do you balance the inner chatter of taking fertility medication when you really don’t want to?

Last week during Dr. Rob’s sponsored complimentary tele-workshop our discussion turned to the inner turmoil about taking fertility drugs when in your “other” life you weren’t a “drug taker.”

There was an amazing lady on the call who shared that a grief counselor offered a mantra that “These drugs will help me be a mom,” to quiet that tiny voice debating the “Do I take the drugs or don’t I take the drugs?” question.

“What I know now that I wished I knew then” was to make the association back to the fact that when we’re in fertility treatments it is because we have a medical condition no different from diabetes…that if you were diagnosed with diabetes you would take insulin, correct? Well, during the time of this condition your body needs this injectable medication to create, sustain, and maintain a pregnancy.

One strategy for shifting the negative emotions around taking the fertility medication might be to call in gratitude for the medication, which is bringing you closer to being a mom. I remember being so upset with my “body” for not achieving pregnancy, all the while diminishing all my uterus’ work in creating a super lining and my ovaries for super ovulating. It was trying its best just like your mind and soul!

In a Gratitude List ~ which contains ten things you are grateful for each day ~ you might want to start off with expressing your thankfulness for your body, how it is working away, and also for the makers of the medication that is at work too.

FYI~ if you purchase your medication from a fertility pharmacy such as Village Fertility Pharmacy, not only do you get a knowledgeable resource, you also get 24/7 support from their team of nurses too!

“You have the ability to talk yourself in and out of anything!” Dr. Robert Kiltz

Special Event on Thursday!

2010-09-27T14:34:00.004-04:00

Do you need time with a group of individuals who completely understand what you're going through? Join us for an encouraging and understanding time of discussion...this will be a very special Fall Fertility Coaching Group taking place in Sandwich, MA.

This Thursday, Sept 30, 2010

7:00pm EST

68 Tupper Road, Suite 5A, Sandwich, MA

Fee: $10

RSVP: info@kristenmagnacca.com

Check out the recording on Itunes!

2010-09-22T11:02:00.006-04:00

The Surrogacy Lawyer, author and radio host Theresa Erickson invites you to join her for a lively discussion with Dr. Robert Kiltz of CNY Fertility and Kristen Magnacca, author of Love and Infertility, about retaining and nurturing patients. Attorney Erickson will discuss with our guests how in trying to help their patients have a baby, sometimes physicians and other providers focus so much on the clinical or procedural aspects of treatment that they neglect the emotional side of infertility and how they should be communicating with patients.

They forget that positive, caring words and actions count in addition to expert clinical care. As a result, some patients fail to continue with treatment and never achieve their cherished dream of building a family – at least not with that particular clinic or agency.

On Thursday, September 23 at 11 AM PST/2 PM EST, Surrogacy Lawyer, author and radio host Theresa Erickson will be interviewing them on The Surrogacy Lawyer: Your Guide to IVF and Third Party Family Building. “We are excited to bring in delighted to bring Dr. Robert Kiltz and Kristen Magnacca to our listeners to discuss their vision and experience with building a patient-centric fertility practice.” says Attorney Erickson.

Now Listen On ITunes!

Listen to the uplifting discussion here!

A Few Announcements!

2010-09-13T17:18:00.002-04:00

First, I want to thank Rachel Gurevich for a great review of my book, Love & Infertility, on About.com. Check it out here!

We have several great articles and events coming your way this month:

I have a new article I'd like to encourage you with over at CNY Fertility, I hope you take a minute to read it. Also, be sure to set aside Mon, Sept. 20 6:30-7:30pm EST for a complimentary tele-workshop hosted by CNY, and presented by yours truly! We will focus on some valuable relaxation techniques, and you can call in from anywhere to join us. Hope to "see" you there!

The second Tuesday of every month is Tele-Tuesday. Plan to join us Sept. 14, 6:30-8:00pm EST, from within the comfort of your own home. Find out call-in details on my calendar page.

And of course, we have a special Fall Fertility Coaching Group this month on Sept. 22! I hope you'll be there!

Fall Fertility Coaching Group

2010-09-08T07:47:00.004-04:00

Come by for a special Fall Fertility Coaching Group at my office, "A Time in Grace."

This time of encouragement will be held on Thursday, Sept. 30 at 7:00 pm, so mark your calendar now for a lovely evening on beautiful Cape Cod.

You will meet other individuals who completely understand what you're going through and how you're feeling, and I'll share simple yet effective strategies to help you manage your creation process. It will be a wonderful evening, so I hope you join us!

$10 Registration, RSVP to info@kristenmagnacca.com.

Journey with Creation Yoga & Meditation with Kim Blanc

2010-08-02T14:30:00.005-04:00

August 4 and Every Wednesday at 7:00pm

Location: "A Time In Grace" (Kristen's Office) 68 Tupper Road, Suite 5A, Sandwich, MA

Gentle beginner Hatha yoga for those who want to bring a deep sense of relaxation to their mind, body, & spirit. Peaceful yoga & meditation; a journey within to connect to the source of your healing power and have some fun. Stay tuned for a new Fall Yoga Series.

Fees: $12 Registration required

RSVP: kimblanc@gmail.com, call 508-517-7381 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting 508-517-7381 end_of_the_skype_highlighting, or visit intuitivebodyworks.com

Complimentary Teleworkshop!

2010-07-15T17:13:00.002-04:00

Mark your calendars! Don't miss out on this workshop celebrating independence and inner strength! Courtesy of CNY Fertility - Monday, July 19, 6:30 pm. RSVP to kristen@cnyfertility.com.

To-do List: Work, School, Groceries, Cook, Clean...Passion?

2010-07-08T15:38:00.004-04:00

Passion can seem like something that just happens, spur of the moment, when we're caught up in certain emotions...or is it just as meaningful and important when we schedule it into our lives?

Read all about it in my new article for Fertility Authority!

Setting Aside Time to Bloom

2010-06-24T13:42:00.004-04:00

How would you describe your feminine energy?

Read my article for the summer edition of Cape Women Online!

The Man Cave

2010-06-15T14:36:00.004-04:00

The Man Cave! Does your husband or partner have one?

Check out my recent article written for Fertility Authority.

Infertility Support: Talking your way through it!

2010-06-10T10:49:00.002-04:00

Since I was a small child I was told I talked too much. In the first grade the teacher created a special code on my report card adding the number “5” to the conduct row and wrote in “talking” which is currently on my permanent school record. My mother frequently reminds me of this and it is over 41 years ago!

So, it was no surprise when my husband and I entered into the world of assisted reproductive therapies that my first means of coping about our current situation was to...check out the rest of my article on Fertility Ties!

The Summer Solstice

2010-06-10T10:47:00.001-04:00

June 21st is the Summer Solstice, the astronomical event when we hit summer and the sun actually appears to reverse direction while reaching its northernmost extreme. The Celebration of the summer has ancient ties and the people believed that the mid-summer plants had miraculous healing powers and picked them on this night. (I read this on Wikipedia).

You might be wondering why I am bringing up the Summer Solstice and it’s correlation to the fertility journey?

Here’s my personal experience. During my first year during our journey, I was no holds barred, GO, GO, GO and it went like this...check out the rest of my article on CNY Fertility!

Complimentary Tele-Workshop!

2010-06-07T22:26:00.002-04:00

Don't miss this Tuesday's tele-workshop as I discuss "Love and Infertility: How to balance another cycle and summer fun!" (including a discussion with a special 'male' focus):

Tuesday, June 8 6:30-7:30pm
Email info@kristenmagnacca.com for dial-in info
Join us the 2nd Tuesday of every month!

Also, check out my new article over at CNY Fertility!

Flip It and Switch It!

2010-06-03T10:44:00.003-04:00

Did you know that “sol" & "stice” are Latin words that mean “sun" & "to stand still”?

Given that both the Summer Solstice and Father’s Day are on June 20th this year I would like to offer a strategy to help change the associations to this day - get moving! Don’t stand still!

Celebrate the longest day of the year with the intention of FUN!

Plan something together which is your partner or husband’s choice, fishing, biking, walking on the beach or in the woods, seeing a movie, or perhaps surprise him with an “out of the ordinary” day!

But whatever you do, shift the focus to that of creating a memory!

Come see me in Houston!

2010-05-27T09:19:00.001-04:00

Houston Fertility Insitute has invited me to speak:

Thursday, June 3rd at 6:30pm

The Westchase Marriott

2900 Briarpark Drive ~ Houston 77042 ~ 713-978-7400

They will be giving away an IVF cycle, and every person who attends receives a complimentary copy of Love & Infertility.
Come join us!

April is Aphrodite's Month!

2010-04-01T13:56:00.004-04:00

Did you know that April is Aphrodite's Month? Aphrodite is the Greek goddess of love, beauty and sexuality. She is identified with the Roman goddess Venus. April means Aphrodite.

As we move into the month of April and spring there is a natural cycle to blooming and fertility. The earth is coming alive again from the dormant winter.

During this month the week of April 24 through May 1st is National Infertility Awareness Week, I like to refer to this week as "Fertility Awareness" so please join me for many offerings to celebrate our feminine energy during this week!

Saturday, April 24, 1:00-3:00 PM, Village Fertility Pharmacy will host a complimentary "Love and Infertility" event during National Infertility Awareness Week with award-winning fertility author, consultant and life coach Kristen Magnacca. Magnacca will help participants celebrate their feminine energy and learn strategies for creation and coping. 335 Bear Hill Road, Waltham MA. The event is limited to 30 women. Register at mnair@villagepharmacy.com.

Monday, April 26, 6:30-8:30 PM, "Focus on Flourishing: The Fertile Mind, Body and Soul Connection" Kristen, with kundalini yoga instructor Jill Sasso Curtis, and massage therapist and yoga instructor Kim Blanc, will collaborate to present three mini - workshops focusing on Flourishing for your mind, body & soul.
Kristen will focus on the mind, helping participants learn how to develop a "Fertility Game Plan~ give birth to your heart's desire". Sasso Curtis and Blanc will focus on body and soul flourishing techniques. Time in Grace Offices, 68 Tupper Road, Suite 5, Sandwich, MA. Register at info@kristenmagnacca.com.

Thursday, April 29th, 6:30-8pm
Focus on Flourishing Tele-Workshop, Join Dr. Rob Kiltz and Kristen Magnacca as they share information, support and more to celebrate National Infertility Awareness Week. Dr. Kiltz will announce details of his IVF Giveaway during the call. All are welcome to join, no cost to participate! RSVP to Kristen at kristen@cnyfertility.com for the phone number to dial-in and join.

Spring Fever!

2010-02-26T13:20:00.003-05:00

Spring Fever! I got it bad!

Feeling as though I am not able to concentrate or follow through on tasks. My eyelids are so darn heavy!!!

Don't get me wrong I'm working through the "to-do" list but I have a longing. I stumbled upon this quote from Mark Twain and I think he was talking about me!!! Or perhaps he was talking to you?

“It's spring fever. That is what the name of it is. And when you've got it, you want - oh, you don't quite know what it is you do want, but it just fairly makes your heart ache, you want it so!” Mark Twain

Do you feel it too? The beating of your undercover heart’s desires that perhaps are longing for renewal and the promise of the spring cycle? Rebirthing you?

So, I ask you what is your heart aching for?

Valentine's Day Events

2010-02-09T11:50:00.003-05:00

During the month of February, please join me for the following events focusing on "keeping your loving feelings alive". Blessings, Kristen

February 9th Love & Infertility ~ Tele-Workshop 6:30 to 8:00pm Sponsored by Village Fertility Pharmacy

Keeping that loving feeling during fertility treatments

Listen in from the comfort of your home as Kristen Magnacca shares some proven strategies to keep lines of communication open between you and your partner, discusses tips to go from reactionary to proactive through this time. Kristen will share with you “what she know now that she wished she knew then” about keeping the loving energy flowing. RSVP to kristen@Kristenmagnacca.com for call in information.

Listen in on February 10th Legal Broadcast NetworkRadio Show Theresa Erickson http://www.blogtalkradio.com/surrogacylawyer

February 23rd Melissa Brisman

Join Melissa Brisman and me as we discuss balancing strategies and fertility game plan including the options of creating your family through adoption and surrogacy. www.reproductivelawyer.com

This free teleworkshop RSVP to Kristen@kristenmagnacca.com

Over stuffed!

2009-11-30T11:57:00.001-05:00

I completed my “to do list” for Thursday containing my Thanksgiving’s Day Contributions:
1) Grandma’s secret meat stuffing (I’ll take the recipe to the grave) 2) Brownies 3) Ice box Pie (Chocolate pudding in a graham cracker crust) 4) Home made cranberry sauce

I am so grateful for the abundance in our lives and I am actually anticipating the “over stuffed” feeling.

Do you know the feeling? The turkey- tryptophan induced sleepy feeling brought on along with the over indulgence of mashed potatoes and all the fixings, especially the secret meat stuffing!

But most of all I am anticipating being with my family. My not so “normal” family who finds joy in each other’s crazy antics. Last year my sister brought the long skinny balloons that you blow up with a straw and when released fly crazy all over. We laughed so hard that we were breathless as each and every one of us held our balloon and released it simultaneously causing group chaos.

That memory is one of our families’ favorite!
After dinner we all comb through the “Black Friday” flyers and plan our strategy for hitting the sales at 4:00 O’clock in the morning.

We do so with a mission, we abstain from purchasing each other gifts, or are suppose to, to create a Christmas for a woman and her family transitioning from the local women’s shelter to her own home. Most of the time these families are victim of spousal abuse and leave their homes with the clothes they have on their backs. So, our intention is to outfit their household and we “charge” out at 4:00 o’clock in the morning with list in hands to do so.

We divide the list up taking our targeted items and off we go, last year my sister and I had the kitchen and the items needed which was so much fun, I’m hoping for the same assignment this year too.

But, it is reading the list of items that the children request which always brings me to tears; socks, PJ’s and crayons, is what they ask for and most frequently they request that we buy things for the other family members not them.

Crayons, socks, PJ’S aren’t those items just a given in a person’s live?

It makes me overly grateful for that overstuffed feeling brought on from the amazing thanksgiving dinner and to be honest a bit embarrassed about the “overstuffed feeling” in the other parts of my life.

So, when a life’s journey brings disappointment, struggle and hardship the comparison to another seems to have a way of snapping yourself out of the “why” me story playing in ones head.

I am extremely blessed even when life brings to me another learning lesson, one that seems insurmountable, because it really is the stuff that helps you cherish the “overstuffed” moments that can sometimes be forgotten.

So for this Thanksgiving I wish you a wonderful turkey nap! God Bless You. Kristen

Are you open to possibilities?

2009-10-30T11:54:00.004-04:00

The last few months have been a bit of a whirlwind filled with all new and exciting opportunities.

During these last four weeks I have been in three states... New York, South Dakota and Georgia and went to each state with an open heart for adventure and that is what I found.

Do you set your intention to have an open heart? Do you open yourself to all possibilities?

This quote from Leo Buscaglia is a reminder to me of how you can "hold yourself open to life"

"I still get wildly enthusiastic about little things... I play with leaves. I skip down the street and run against the wind."

So, when was the last time you played in the leaves? Or perhaps you have been complaining about raking them instead? Or when was the last time you skipped? My daughter, Grace and I just skipped into the grocery store on Sunday, we did get some looks but I really didn't care.

Holding your heart open is a matter of making a decision to do so? The practice of being open can be a challenge when life is thrown at you. How about this? For today why don't you begin with checking in on the state of your heart and decide for today that you will remain open to all possibilities that come your way.

Maybe a different seat at lunch to connect with someone you normally don't, or perhaps it is extending yourself to a grieving family member, or perhaps it is just taking a walk and seeing what you notice?

Try something out of the ordinary and possibilities open up!

Blessings, Kristen

Holiday Survival Coaching Group!

2009-09-30T10:48:00.001-04:00

NEW! Holiday Survival Coaching Group — The holiday season can be stressful and when you tack on TTC, it can be hard to see this time as the "Most Wonderful Time of the Year"!

I will share with you some simple strategies to shift the energy around this time and help bring joy to the season. The group meetings will focus on strategies for the mind, and a relaxation or meditation for the body and soul. The January group will focus on goal setting and staying clear on the year’s intentions. Come and share, connect with others, have a yummy dessert, and be introduced to some amazing mind, body, and soul balancing techniques.

Thursdays, November 12 and December 3, 2009 and January 7, 2010
6:30 – 8:30 p.m.
Merchant's Square, 68 Tupper Road 5A, East Sandwich, MA
Fee: $10 per session plus a materials charge
RSVP via email kristen@kristenmagnacca.com

Singleness of Eye & Purity of Intention

2009-09-30T10:42:00.003-04:00

A Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh...
“I believe that what woman resents is not so much giving herself in pieces as giving herself purposelessly.”
Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Anne Marrow Lindbergh was a pioneering American aviator, author, and the spouse of fellow aviator Charles Lindbergh. I knew little of her when I began reading her book this summer and was drawn into her writing immediately as she shared her desire “to be at peace with myself and wanting singleness of eye, a purity of intention, a central core to my life that will enable me to carry out these obligations and activities as well as I can”.

I have been cultivating a practice of focus and intention and found her insight profound even though they were written 50 years ago. Enjoy!

Please Listen In!

2009-08-04T11:48:00.004-04:00

What is your Summer Intention?

2009-07-29T12:50:00.004-04:00

Have you felt it? The feeling of summer is here! The sun, the fun and more relaxed atmosphere has enveloped us!

My family has set our intention on having fun! We took a "staycation" and did tourist things here on Cape Cod Massachusetts and also have planned activities to look forward to such as a Red Sox Game, Concerts and boating.

What is your summer intention? Whatever it is I hope for you a shift in your energy to that of a great sense of renewal!

I hope that you are able to join me for the following Summer Fun Offerings!

Thursday, July 30 from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m Village Fertility Pharmacy will host a Ladies’ Night Out with RESOLVE’s “Best Book” Hope Award winner and author Kristen Magnacca on Thursday, July 30 from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m. at the pharmacy’s new facility at 335 Bear Hill Road in Waltham, Mass. The event is free and open to all women; wine and cheese will be served. Those who would like to attend may RSVP to Maya Nair at mnair@villagepharmacy.com. The first 10 women to RSVP will receive a free copy of Love and Infertility: Strategies for Survival – Balancing Infertility, Marriage, and Life!

Wednesday , August 5th @ 2:00 pm to 3:00 Pm Listen in if you can to my conversation with Kim Hahn of Conceive On Air
http://www.modavox.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=696

Tuesday, August 11th @ noon. I'll be hosting a Brown Bag Tele-workshop
Join me for a half hour of tidbits, insights and strategies to keep yourself cool during life's rough spots. Listen in on your lunch time at your desk or from pool side. Please RSVP to me at kristen@kristenmagnacca.com to receive dial in information. This is a free event.

Night of Hope ~ Best Book Award

2009-06-09T16:33:00.013-04:00

June 2nd was a big night in the Big Apple! Love & Infertility: Survival Strategies for Infertility, Marriage and Life, received the Hope Award for Best book for coping with infertility from RESOLVE, the national infertility awareness organization.

Rita Crosby who is a veteran TV news anchor and senior correspondent who most recently worked at MSNBC, along with Barbara Collura, Executive Director and Lee Boston, Executive Board Member, presented this amazing award to me.

Also shown are my mom, Virginia Nehring and Dr. Robert Kiltz of Cny Fertility and Healing Art Centers and my wonderful husband,
Mark and I.

I so appreciate the support from Dr. Robert Kiltz of Cny Fertility and Healing Arts, Terri Davidson of Davidson Communication, the wonderful people at Village Fertility Pharmacy.
To everyone who has sent their congratulations! Thank you! Thank you! Kristen

The Hope Award for Best Book, Coping

2009-05-18T13:25:00.002-04:00

I am honored to share with you the following news from RESOLVE National:

The Hope Award for Best Book, Coping
Inaugural Award! Given to an individual/organization whose printed book enhances the lives of people with infertility with a message of how to cope and live with the disease.

Kristen Magnacca, Love and Infertility: Survival Strategies for Balancing, Infertility, Marriage, and Life

I am truly touched by the nomination and receiving this award. A special thank you to Dr. Robert Kiltz, founder of Cny Fertility and Healing Arts Center for his support.
Thank you!
Blessings, Kristen

National Infertility Awareness Week (NIAW)

2009-04-15T11:32:00.003-04:00

One of my favorite quotes is from Oliver Wendell Holmes: "A moment's insight is sometimes worth a life's experience." In that spirit it is my intention to share a few insights to help change your current experience! Blessings! Kristen

I just wanted to post my upcoming events for National Infertility Awareness Week which is April 25th through May 2nd. Dr. Robert Kiltz has invited me to co present with him at his centers Cny Fertility Centers (cnyfertility.com) and I look forward to sharing insights, strategies and life balancing tidbits over the course of these events.

April 23rd at 7:00pm Live Chat on CNYHealingarts.com
(http://www.cnyhealingarts.com/forum/) Log on from the comfort of your own home! I'll be on the forum for an hour sharing insights and answering your questions. Please feel free to email me your questions prior to the chat if you'd like at kristen@kristenmagnacca.com.

Latham, NY
April 30th from 12:00 to 2:00pm at Cny Fertility Center
Dr. Rob and I will be presenting "Creating & Clarity for Your Vision". If you attended the Love and Infertility Workshop please bring your goals or pocket companion, if you have not attended the programs not to worry I'll have a "Pocket Companion" waiting for you when you arrive.

Immediately following the presentation a special Yoga for Fertility Sample Class with Linda Hill will be offered.

Syracuse, NY
May 1st from 12:00 to 2:00pm at the Cny Healing Arts Center
191 Intrepid Lane. (See Description above) Immediately following the presentation a special Yoga for Fertility Sample Class with Cynthia Broccoli will be offered.

Rochester, NY
May 2nd from 1:00 pm to 3:00pm at the Cny Healing Arts Center. (See Description above) Immediately following the presentation a special Yoga for Fertility Sample Class with Erin McCollough will be offered.

A Light lunch will be served

Please R.S.V.P. to Christine Briel at events@robertkiltz.com.
Thank you!

Vision Board

2009-02-04T12:25:00.004-05:00

I wanted to share with you a testimonial from a wonderful woman that attended a recent workshop that was presented at CNY Fertility Center, www.cnyfertility.com

The center is own by Dr. Robert Kiltz who is a reproductive endocrinologist and a healer that practices science while incorporating the mind, body and soul into his process while he assists his clients during the time they are creating their families. Please visit Dr. Rob's site www.mindbodysmile.com to learn more about him. I want to thank him for allowing me to be part of his centers.

Kristy Lee writes with such graciousness about our time together. I am sharing her beautiful words on my blog because her actions demonstrates the power of a Vision Board and she is an amazing example of changing your thoughts and you change your life.

It was really All God and Her.

From Kristy Lee:
"I signed up for Kristen's "Love & Infertility" workshops despite a lot of hesitation. I had just gone through a painful, but successful, HSG exam and I needed some kind of support and coaching. I had no idea what to expect: would I be in a room full of weepy, a barren woman? Would we hold hands and hug and eat chocolate? Would we all feel angry at yell at the fates? What could I possibly get out of this? At 25 years old, I was not a stranger to the effects of my PCOS/hypothyroidism/Luteal Phase defect, but I had no idea how to handle the overwhelming feeling of knowing my body was failing me. Despite my hesitation, I signed up for Kristen's workshops at the CNY Fertility Center. I knew I had to get the emotional and spiritual support that modern medicine couldn't give me.

Kristen's workshops changed my life. For months I had been angry at myself and was hurling hatred and insults at my body. I had always been a determined, driven young woman; and now I was failing at the most natural thing in the world. Kristen's workshops taught me to begin the healing process. I had to forgive myself, let myself grieve, and let myself hope. After the first session, I felt as if a ton of bricks had been lifted off my shoulders. The room was not full of angry, barren women. Instead, I saw myself in each and every one of the faces in the crowd. I was not alone. My entire way of thinking changed; I read Kristen's book in one sitting and put all her exercises into practice.

My husband attended the next two sessions along with me. Our homework after the second session was to create a vision board. We had to put out into the universe our dreams, our goals, and our desires. My husband and I worked on the vision board for weeks, cutting out pictures from magazines and scraps of paper and gluing them all together. I channeled my frustration at my unpredictable cycles and vague ovulation predictor kits into my vision board. When it was completed, it was - to my husband and I - a masterpiece.

One week before the final workshop, I found myself face to face with a pregnancy test. I was waiting for a new cycle to start so that I could start Clomid and, hopefully, my first pregnancy. My period was due tomorrow but then I realized...it wouldn't be due for another nine months or so. I was pregnant, without any medication or drastic medical intervention. My first baby, my miracle, the answer to many prayers, is due in August 2009.

Without Kristen's help, I don't think I would be pregnant right now. Kristen helped me tune into my body and my thoughts and, unwittingly, prepared me for this pregnancy. Kristen did for me what modern medicine could not: teach me to forgive myself, accept myself, and let life work out the way it's meant to."

Winter Sparkle

2008-12-22T14:08:00.005-05:00

December! How did it get to be December?

Living in New England I should be so used to the snow, rain, sleet, freezing rain, wind gust and icy mess! But us New Englanders have amnesia! We forget about it over the spring and summer and seem to stumble back into the cold with shock as if it is our first "wintry" experience :) Or at least that is what happens to me.

I am struck by the dramatic quickness of the coldness and also the shift in people's perception of the here and now.
Maybe the energy of the New England weather is a reminder to care for yourself in a manner that takes some thought.
Warming up the car instead of jumping and speeding off, bundling up with hats, mittens and scarves brings attention to those important energy centers of your body and protecting them from the harsh nature of the wind and cold. Taking time for kindness.

Energetically, our world is changing and I feel shifting back to basics remembering that we are connected and we must be mindful of this fact with every interaction and decision, setting our intention on love, faith, hope and kindness daily to help this universal change in a more positive manner.

The simple act of calling in the gift of kindness: kindness defined as charity, compassion, friendship and sympathy without prejudice and for its own sake is what we need universally, can and will help at this given moment.

The energy behind kindness is love, connection, in direct contrast behind the energy of fear, which is disconnect.
By practicing our birth gift of kindness we will have on effect on the whole.
Even if you start with a pair of mittens for yourself! That energy will radiate from you, kindness and love!
Blessings, Kristen

Kristen Magnacca's Pearls for Fall 2008

2008-09-16T14:00:00.003-04:00

It’s September already! The summer seemed to fly by. We had a great deal of transition over the summer, new home, new school for my children, new job opportunities and a great deal of visitors. Hanging in an open area of my home is this quote from The Dalai Lama. Could it be as simple as what he shares? “If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the true meaning of life”.

I fell back on his quote all summer long caring for others and trying in vain to do so without resentment, holding on tightly to the thought perhaps that this was my true mission-to contribute to other’s happiness. Very powerful and I’m still a work in progress.

The true meaning of living life: “We are visitors on this planet. We are here for ninety or one hundred years at the very most. During this period we must try to do something good, something useful with our lives. If you contribute to other people’s happiness, you will find the true goal, the true meaning of life.” H.H.The 14th Dalai Lama

Jayce's Pearls

2008-08-26T16:47:00.004-04:00

“So be true to life by being true to your inner purpose. As you become present and thereby total in what you do, your actions become charged with spiritual power.”
Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth

In a world crammed with schedules, deadlines, timelines and utter chaos, I have learned that the way to stay focused is to be more mindful of the present moment. After all, this is the only thing we have ultimate control over. We as women play the ever changing roles of daughter, mother, wife, sister, employee, employer, etc. Although all of the roles are important to who we are and what we do, we often get lost in them rather than focus on the unique and individual moments for each of them. Women tend to continuously ask themselves what else needs to be done rather than enjoying the current task or moment at hand.

Not surprisingly, it takes complete concentration to retrain your mind to stay focused in the present moment. This is because simple tasks are interrupted by racing thoughts of the eight thousand other things that need to be done.

One suggestion would be to take one simple task and do it as if it was the only thing that needed to be done all day. When I do the dishes for example, I let the water run on my hands and enjoy the warmth, try to avoid any other thought except the dishes for the entire duration of doing them. You will find it is a true test of your ability to stay focused on the moment. If you can master this you will be on your way to becoming charged with spiritual power! I wish you well on your journey.
Peace-Jayce Hall
http://www.comfortcuisineinc.com/

Randine's Pearls

2008-07-16T18:51:00.003-04:00

One of the best pearls I ever heard is encapsulated by the Tao te Ching:

“Be the fertile valley, so the whole universe will flow to you.”

Most of my retreat patients have struggled for years to reach the top of the mountain – to achieve their careers, their sought after children, the life they want… and through the struggle, their poor, weary, stressed out bodies and minds didn’t have an ounce of fertility left to spare.

Yet, we can learn to reside in the fertile valley, where life effortlessly flows in, based on what we are calling back to us.

When our thoughts and emotions revolve around what we don’t have, we call more of it to us. When we notice the simple presence of our own beating heart, and the rich sensations within our own body, we are calling more abundance to roll down the hill to be received by the lap of our own acceptance. Doesn’t that sound more fertile than fighting for a child, or any other creative expression?

Mothering is about learning to let go - sometimes even before the manifestations of our desires arrive, and certainly after. Let life flow to you. Be the valley.

Randine Lewis, MSOM, Ph.D., L.Ac.
http://www.thefertilesoul.com/
author of The Infertility Cure, and The Way of the Fertile Soul

Jackie's Pearls

2008-06-11T14:19:00.004-04:00

"No matter where the problem is, how acute it may be, or how difficult the person may be, there is in the final analysis no one to change but yourself."
-Joseph Murphy

In general, I am constantly reminding myself to be in the moment -- really, truly in the moment and to appreciate how amazing everything is. Feeling gratitude for the sweat pouring down my face when I have the luxury of being on a spinning bike, for example, or catching a glimpse of the sun on my dog's face as he runs happily off-leash in the park. Finding joy in everyday moments that really are miracles.

Jackie Herskovitz
Teak Media Communications
www.teakmedia.com

Melinda Gates' Pearls

2008-05-21T17:55:00.004-04:00

An Introduction to Melinda Gates' Pearls by Kristen Magnacca

The idea and word is spreading about Her Pearls of Wisdom and I am excited about the interest and the desire to share your stories. Stories about moments of insight that you hold onto that have created strength and grace for healing. Opening up the same possibility for others.

We have reached out to women in all different life circumstances coming from a place which feels that regardless of where you are in your life, your experience matters and sagely advise brings healing and comfort.

We reached out to the list of women in the Wall Street Journal who are labeled the 50 Women to Watch. We are honored to say that we heard from Mrs. Melinda Gates, the co founder of the Gates Foundation and the wife of Bill Gates. Although she does not grant interviews or speak about her personal life, her assistant shared with us some of her speeches and information about the profound work that the Gates Foundation is currently undertaking. When reviewing the speeches, this excerpt below spoke to me and I hope you find the sagely advice that I found from Melinda Gates’ words.

"The Other Side of the Mat" (excerpt from a speech by Melinda Gates)

Making our intention of the day to realize what is it like for the person on the other side of the mat?
So when we meet people in the countries we visit, we see what we have in common with them. Like us, they have hopes for the future. They have parents who love them and children who need them. They have intellectual curiosity, and an entrepreneurial spirit, and a determination to make life better for themselves and their children.

I am especially moved by the mothers I meet. They'll invite me into their homes, and we'll sit on the floor, often on opposite sides of a small mat. I have young children myself, and I try to put myself in these women’s position. What would I do, if I were on the other side of the mat? What would I want for my children?

If I were a pregnant mother in Bangladesh, I would be desperate for a skilled attendant to help me deliver my baby safely.

If I were a young mother in India, I would want to know the facts: that breastfeeding instead of using formula is one of the best ways to save my newborn from cholera.

If I were a mother in Malawi and my daughter got sick with diarrhea, I would hope that she could get the electrolytes she needed before it was too late.

Those would be my hopes, my dreams, my wishes. But in all likelihood, they would not be the reality of my daily life.

The reality is this: Every year, more than 10 million children die before they turn five, most of them from conditions we know how to prevent or treat.

In some countries I've visited, mothers don't give their children names for weeks or even months because they don't want to start caring about them. The chances are just too high that their children will die in those first few weeks of life.

When I hear a story like that, I am jolted back to my side of the mat. How can tragedy be such an everyday occurrence?

I am appalled that children are still dying of pneumonia today—a century after rich countries figured out how to treat it effectively.

On my side of the mat, when my kids are sick, they get antibiotics. On the other side of the mat, when a child gets sick, it can be a death sentence.

I ask you to put yourself on the other side of the mat—to see that these mothers love their children just as much as you love yours.When we empathize, we realize how urgently we need to make saving the children of the world a priority for the world.
[Printed with permission of the Gates Foundation]

Doreen's Pearls

2008-04-08T15:27:00.006-04:00

Doreen Condry,
Her Pearls of Wisdom...

As a young girl, my mother’s influence helped develop the depth of love for God I carry on my journey through life.

We all have a choice to make. My choice is to love each and every one of God’s children no matter what difference is seen on the outside. Inside each of God’s children is a “Pearl” of God’s love that will shine through if allowed. Everyone is in need of love. I ask God each day to use me as a vessel to do His work.

My pearl of wisdom is “Love is the basis for all good things.”
Without love and light you are a misguided vessel. With love, the abundant joy you will feel doing God’s work is all that you need to flourish in this life.

Another would be, “Seek peace and gain wisdom from those that have come before you”. Elderly people are the salt of the earth. They have experienced most of what we will face. They can prepare us in some way to handle life’s challenges and uncertainties.

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Debbie's Pearls

2008-04-02T11:33:00.005-04:00

Debbie Hershey,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

I have been married for almost 30 years and have 2 sons, 21 and 23. Whoever said raising boys is easier than girls must not have boys. During my toughest times my mother told me that,

"Mothers of boys have a special seat right next to God." I am counting on that.

When they were little mom also told me to,

"Cherish them and hold on tight, because one day they start 1st grade and the next day they graduate."..... This is the truest statement my mother ever made.

I hope these quotes help other mothers of boys in the trying times like they have helped me.

Alison's Pearls

2008-04-02T11:10:00.006-04:00

Alison,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

Here are some pearls that I carry in my Day Planner...

"Natural energy is released when you enjoy what you are doing."
Deniece Schofield, author of "Confessions of an Organized Homemaker
and Confessions of a Happily Organized Family."

"A lot of parenting is stamina. Physical stamina when they are
younger and emotional stamina when they get older."
John Mattleman, Director,
Needham Youth Commission

Tara's Pearls

2008-03-19T13:00:00.031-04:00

Tara Cousineau,
Her Pearls of Wisdom...

The best advice I ever received was to teach my husband to ask me, after a long work day, after kids are to bed, and so on:

“Is there anything I can help you with tonight?” ...That's how the laundry gets done.

Tara Cousineau, PhD
Tara’s new fertility blog: The Gametehttp://www.thegamete.com/
Tara’s blog on mothers and daughters:http://www.princessandpeablog.com/
Foibles and Fables on Being Female

Please take a few moments to consider completing my mother/daughter survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=0dmz1ddO_2fQQJMrG1Z9P5ag_3d_3d

Shirley's Pearls

2008-03-19T12:52:00.009-04:00

Shirley Warren,

Her Pearls of Wisdom....

"Be kind when given the chance and create the chance to be kind often!" - ohmdog.com

"There is a hidden gift in everything that happens." - unknown

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi

please consider the environment - do you really need to print this email?
oh yes and sometime check out http://www.ohmdog.com/

Shirley Warren
shirley_warren@mac.com

Danielle's Pearls

2008-03-06T12:56:00.004-05:00

Danielle Lindquist,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

"You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future." ---(unknown)

“Life is filled with so many exciting twists and turns. Hop off the straight and narrow whenever you can and take the winding paths. Experience the exhilaration of the view from the edge. Because the moments spent there, that take your breath away, are what make you feel truly alive."
--Stacey Charter

"Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."
--Muriel Strode

Pamela's Pearls

2008-03-05T15:13:00.005-05:00

Pam Alix,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

I have always liked the quote...

"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans"
( I think it is from John Lennon originally)

I also love these:

"God doesn't require us to succeed; he only requires that you try."
"I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much."
(both from Mother Teresa)

Dr. Pamela Alix
drpamalix@yahoo.com
Tri River Family Health Center
Uxbridge MA 01569

Shannon's Pearls

2008-02-21T15:22:00.010-05:00

Shannon Lewis,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

Here is my sage advice...

"Do not waste time worrying about things that are out of your control." Invest that energy on your kids, your marriage or yourself. Worrying gives you wrinkles.

I try and live my life by this. That's why I look so young!!

Diana's Pearls

2008-02-06T20:15:00.005-05:00

Diana Buono,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

I am a happily married woman of 19 years with three loving children ranging in age from 7 to 16 years old.

My faith and love of God are the driving forces in my life and permeate all that I attempt to do to give Him glory. The foundation of which is to live by the “Golden Rule” which is, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Translated for each of my children since they were toddlers as,

“Treat other people the way you want to be treated.”

I am a Type A person with a running to do list always in my head. I've noticed that sometimes I get so caught up in my agenda of accomplishments that I plan to make for the day that I lose sight of living in the moment and being open to the non-agenda "obstacles" that are frequently placed in my path. I've come to learn that it is good to have a tentative plan for the day that is flexible enough to be open to God's will and agenda as well. The following quote from a Lenten reflection book this year really sealed my commitment to strive to live this daily:

"Life is not so much about what we accomplish but what God does in us with our consent."

I also begin my morning with the following personal prayer in the fervent hope each day that, as Ralph Waldo Emerson so beautifully stated in his poem about a measure of success being, if “even one life has breathed easier” because He chose to use me as his instrument.

Dear Lord, Please bless me with an abundance of all the gifts of the Holy Spirit that I need today to be a better daughter to you, a better wife to my husband, a better mother to my children and a better friend to my neighbor. Help me to see the world through your eyes so that I may have the proper spiritual perspective to do Your will in all situations I encounter. Please grant this through the Immaculate Heart of your mother Mary on whose intercession I continually rely for help. Amen.

Joanne's Pearls

2008-02-05T10:44:00.002-05:00

Joanne Darcy,
Her Pearls of Wisdom….

Here's what I live by...

"Don't worry about things you have no control over". Why waste good energy worrying, if something I have no control over is going to happen, it will happen whether or not I worry about it.

JoanneDarcy
Country Fair
www.CountryFair.us

Karen's Pearls

2008-02-02T09:55:00.003-05:00

Karen Johnson,
Her Pearls of Wisdom....

[The first women I contacted about "her pearls of wisdom" were my family members and my sister. Karen is a nurse and works at Bay State Medical Center in the quality assessment department. ]

"this too shall pass" - I use this one often to remind myself that a difficult period in time will pass and things will get better.

It seems whenever I am feeling particularly sorry for myself or my situation - God puts me right in the path of someone who clearly has it much worse than I. I can't tell you how often I am walking through the halls of the hospital enjoying my own pity party when around the corner comes a critically ill child or grieving family. I always say, "Thanks God, I got it". As George, my husband, says, you don't have to look very far to find someone who is having a harder time than you. It is sometimes hard for me to remember, so I am always grateful when God reminds me.

Doing something for someone makes me feel better too. Sometimes I pay for someone's coffee in the cafeteria line and then there is always the Christmas Family and the foster kids we buy for- At work we also buy back to school stuff for the school across the street from the hospital - the inner city kids at Lincoln school would not have school supplies without our help. We send supplies to the troops in Iraq, and collect for collegues that are having a tough time, etc, etc-

Pearl of Wisdom Card #1

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Download the first Pearl of Wisdom Card, a PDF you can print out and keep for your inspiration. Check back periodically for new cards, which will feature the best of Her Pearls of Wisdom.

First Pearls....

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I felt it only appropriate to begin "Her Pearls Of Wisdom" with a pearl from my Auntie Joann, who passed just three short weeks after the birth of my daughter Grace Sarah Rose.

She was an amazing women who seemed to be able to shed God's shining light on the darkest hours. When I first began my business at the young age of 22 years old, my family was cautiously optimistic for my success. It was my Auntie Jo who would visit me weekly and check in on how the whole new endeavor was running. She listened from the heart and filtered out the unncessary with God's Grace to help me get to the root of the issue. Then she would quickly respond with this gem:

"Don't let the turkeys get you down"....

I took it to mean to be aware of peoples' intentions and motives and don't let them drag you into their issues. I'm sure you have been in situations where you find yourself owning another person's burdens, troubles or issues that they have created within their choices. It is within this pearl that one gains a moment to reflect and verify to see if whatever is happening really is yours to take on.

In loving tribute to Joann Darcy Hewes, my aunt, friend and other mother.

The Start of Her Pearls of Wisdom

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Her Pearls of Wisdom

The “ah ha moment” for this blog came to me the night of my husband’s 20th high school reunion. It was the Saturday night after thanksgiving at the Basket Ball Hall of Fame in Springfield, Ma.

As the night progressed and the noise level increased, I found refuge in the entrance area. Sitting on a bar stool, I quickly fell into conversation with a beautiful younger woman sitting to the right of me.

Her name was Brenda and she was the wife of one of my husband’s friends. She lived in New York and was a Doctor, an internist. She mentioned how much she loved her job because her patients tell her everything and she feels as though she heals their mind, body and soul.

I felt as though I had a soul connection with her and she was a soul sista!

We swapped photos of our children and stories of work. How we manage it all and the stress of our different roles.

What made me take action and develop the idea for this blog is the feeling of camaraderie and understanding we instantly felt.

Brenda mentioned she worked three and ½ days per week and had a wonderful sitter for her two boys. We shared “war” stories about how much it takes to make it all happen, managing work, home life, children’s needs, marital relationship, family relationship and the list goes on and on.

I actually had a flash back to breastfeeding while typing my second book just in order to meet my deadline.

Brenda and I locked eyes and I said,
“Oh, right now it’s so difficult because your babies are so little, 6 months and 2 years, but it eases a bit when they get older.”

I noticed a change in her facial expression. I said, “I promise it gets easier”, something my friend Mary had told me a few years earlier when I too doubted the possibility of improvement at the time.

Then I had the “ah ha” moment for this blog. Creating a blog that offers women’s pearls of wisdom, insights, suggestion and knowing, uniquely offered in a sisterly way.

The sharing of insights through words, words that have the same effect which Brenda had mentioned - healing mind, body and soul creating a breathing space and hope.

This is the initial entry, but coming every week will be “her pearls of wisdom” from all different women at different stages of life. Creating the camaraderie that once was gained through generations of a family living within the same walls or town.

A concept that Oliver Wendall Homes quotes captures the essence of this blog created just for you!…. “A moment’s insight is worth a lifetime of experience.”

Blessings,

Kristen